Two hours until Father’s Day and sadly I’m thinking my dad is a dumb ass. Harsh, no? Well, he does some stupid things despite they are out of the goodness of his heart. My mom calls him co-dependent. Well, in any case, his co-dependency on my older brothers and sister make my mom and me pay.
I mentioned somewhere earlier that my sister lost her job due to a dispute. Even if she was in the right, she let her pride get in the way and lost a lot. She went to my father for money in regards to paying rent. Dad lied to my mom saying he loaned her two hundred, which means he flat out gave it to her and didn’t expect to be paid back. Later my mom finds out he gave her five hundred instead due to my sister thanking him for that amount. This is the key element to all this.
Well, my brother will be leaving soon. He took a two to three day trip to get things ready for his move. With him gone we’ll be five hundred dollars short on rent money. My eldest brother came back down here with his girlfriend when her job moved her back. My mom, thinking we wouldn’t see him much anymore, of course got him airline tickets to come here last Christmas to be with us. Due to that she had late pay and now has trouble with a certain credit card company.
There is then the house payment. It is a lot more than we were used to, my dad is in retirement with a job that pays less than his previous and my mom no longer can get overtime because of things going on with her work place.
With all these issues, my sister’s “loan” from my father now sets my mom back on being able to pay bills and she came to me tonight to ask if I could go ahead and give a  four hundred dollar check. She also warned me if things didn’t go well she’d likely have to borrow two hundred more from me. Six hundred dollars?! My eyes widened at that concept.
As usual I did calculations in my head as to how much I’d have left in my account after so much lost. I determined all my attempts to save money to get my account back to normal were somewhat in vain then. I also thought – bless my kitty’s heart – it was a good thing I was no longer paying medical bills on my cat or then I wouldn’t be able to do such for my mom. So, in the end, I’m literally paying for my sister’s stupid pride and my father’s co-dependency.
My dad doesn’t get it. He thinks he can give off all this money, help out my siblings and still manage to keep financially sounds as well. He tells me that despite my brother’s move, I shouldn’t have to pay an extra one hundred even though we are going to five hundred bucks less once he’s gone.
Right, Dad, where are you going to get the rest? I live here too, so I’ll contribute what I can therefore quit telling me I shouldn’t. I know you don’t have a lot of money and all that shit. I can handle this so quit sticking your head in the sand like an ostrich.
It just makes me resentful some. I hate to think myself feeling that way at all, but I admit I am a bit peeved. I mean, why am I paying for my siblings’ damn mistakes and poor judgment with money?
My sister is a damn hypocrite too. I remember before she left for the capitol to go to college, she griped about my brothers. All the money that went down the drain due to the both of them left little for her and me in regards to college funds. Of course, she was only thinking of herself. I really didn’t care other than what it did to my parents.
Anyway, she went on about how she was paying for the fact that my brothers wasted so much money and that my parents were at fault for giving it to them and didn’t think about her. Blah, blah, blah… That is what makes me particularly vindictive now. In her case, there was never any money to begin with. In my case, for her faults, I’m taking money out of my account to make sure she can pay her damn rent because my dad decides to save the day for her with money he doesn’t even bloody have.
Sigh.
I just hope this doesn’t continue on. After this month and on, if they only ask four hundred from me, I can do that… but if they ever need more… I’ll be broke.
The whole scenario is pathetic. I’m the one on Medicaid and seem to be the only one able to keep my financial goings stable. More than once my parents have had to ask to borrow money from me. Well, my mom is the one, but that is because my dad does the ostrich thing. My brother has borrowed money from me, and I have no expectations of him paying me back. My eldest brother admittedly has never truly taken any money from me, but plenty has gone down the drain from my parents which affected all of us. My sister is a selfish bitch who doesn’t consider her actions and always goes to my father to bail her out which then either gives him financial problems or problems to both my parents and thus to me.
I don’t mind helping out my parents and I don’t expect them to pay me back. They’ve treated me well, love me and have raised me. They bought me food all my life growing up, clothed me, bought necessities and things that were for simple leisure. I feel it is good I help them out now. They need it; they sacrificed for me and my siblings. I’ll help share their financial burdens.
That just doesn’t change the fact that I am disappointed in my father. He can’t play superman to my screwed up siblings all the time. One day he won’t be able to do anything because he’s dug himself a hole full of debt. My sister will never learn from her mistakes because she’ll always expect my dad to have money for her. My brother will likely never pay back all the money he stole from the family and thus my parents will likely never get out of debt or get back to their previous stability. The same goes with my eldest brother when wasting so much money on a college education he never applied himself to and constantly dropped out of whenever there was sign of a low grade.
Sigh… It is really just pathetic.
I was hoping to get my account back to decent level this month. That went down the drain now. I just hope some other financial emergency doesn’t come up and hopefully I won’t need a haircut soon because I’d hate to use what money I have left on it. Damn, you sister…
Okay, don’t mean that but oi…